Eight Self-study Lessons to protect your family
Why this Web site exists, What's in it, and  How to benefit from It   By Peter K. Gerlach, MSW member NSRC Experts Council

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This nonprofit, educational Web site exists to alert you to a widespread toxic personal and family stressor - a cycle of [psychological wounds + unawareness] that silently passes down our generations and weakens our culture. This cycle promotes social problems like abuse, neglect, di-vorce, crime, abortions, addictions, bigotry, runaways, terrorism, gangs, homelessness, obesity, de-pression, suicide, bankruptcy, and murder. Have any of these affected your family?

         Based on 30 years' clinical experience and study, the site offers you an eight-lesson course on how to understand and break the cycle and reduce major personal, marital, and family problems. Average mature "well-educated" adults are unaware of the cycle and its toxic effects. Are you aware of them?

  What Does "Break the Cycle" Mean?

        In simplest terms, the "cycle" is this: wounded, unaware parents raise wounded, unaware kids. They  grow up, choose wounded, unaware partners, and raise wounded, unaware kids - who repeat and spread the cycle and its effects in our society. To break this cycle, adults must commit to...

• learning about and accepting the cycle - starting with their own family tree;

• assessing and reducing their psychological wounds; 

• learning the basics in this modular course - alone or with their mate; or...

• choosing a wholistically-healthy, informed partner; and they must want to...

• patiently evolve a high-nurturance family together over many years, despite many obstacles, to raise children who are:

  • are steadily guided by their true Selves in all situations; and...

  • know how to communicate and grieve effectively; and how to make healthy relationship, conception, and parenting choices.

        Notice your reaction to what you just read - curiosity? Cynicism? Indifference? Confusion? Could the cycle be affecting you and your family members? If so - who should stop that?

  Suggestions on Using this Site

• Make freeing your true Self (Lesson 1) your highest ongoing priority. That will maximize your return for investing time and energy in this unique self-study course.

• Keep a long-range perspective (e.g. the rest of your life) and the open mind of a student. Many  ideas here will differ from what you've been taught.

• Do not expect these ideas and tools to resolve any crises immediately - take your time!.

• Avoid using these ideas as absolutes. Sense the themes underlying them, and adapt them to fit your unique personality, style, and circumstances.

• Keep these ageless guidelines in mind as you grow.

• To avoid feeling overwhelmed by all this information, absorb it in two steps: first...

  • complete each study guide (in order), one at a time. Treat this learning as you would a sequence of college courses. The more you learn, the more all topics will make integrated sense to you. Then...

  • apply your learnings to any significant personal and family problems, starting with freeing your true Self and improving your communication effectiveness. Use these options to assess and resolve any personal or social problem.

• Identify any specific questions you seek to answer here. Option: keep a log or journal of your questions, thoughts, awarenesses, and feelings, as you explore this site and its guidebooks.  

• Please use this feedback form to tell me your needs, reactions, and suggestions as you learn. If you find the site useful, please let others know about the [wounds + unawareness] cycle and  sfhelp.org. And...

• Meet others who are studying these lessons in these free forums.

  Recap

        This article describes the purposes of this nonprofit Web site, eight self-study lessons designed to help you beak the lethal [wounds + unawareness] cycle, and how to get the most from the articles here. 

Next - If you're ready to improve your life, health, and relationships, start studying Lesson 1 (free your true Self) and Lesson 2 (learn effective thinking and communication skills). To overview the content of all 8 sequential Lessons, see this outline.

        Pause, breathe, and reflect - why did you read this article? Did you get what you needed? If not, what do you need? Who's answering these questions - your true Self, or someone else?

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Updated  July 24, 2010