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This is one of a series of articles in
Lesson 6
- learn what typical kids need as they grow, and how to fill their needs
effectively over two decades without neglecting yourself. The range and
scope of major social problems suggests that U.S. parents are failing at
this. Successfully implementing the
con-cepts in this Lesson depend on your integrating and practicing the ideas
in Lessons 1-5.
Premises - many adults suffered from inadequate parenting
when they were young - as did their an-cestors. These kids learned to adapt
to the resulting psychological wounds and became adults without knowing their
wounds, or what they
Until they break their denial and reduce their inherited wounds and unawareness,
they're at high risk of passing these on to their kids as their
ancestors did.
See how these ideas compare to yours:
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"Parenting" means "identifying a minor child's
daily and developmental (long-term) needs and consistently filling
them (nurturing) in a mutually-healthy way."
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A "parent" is someone who contributes genes to a
child's conception, or a non-genetically-related person who has major effect
on a child's growth and welfare in someone's opinion.
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Parental effectiveness is indicated by
(a) how well a young adult is able to live independently, and (b) form a
high-nurturance family of her/his own.
Articles and Worksheets
about Effective Parenting
Review:
What Is a family
mission statement, and
why make one? (Lesson 5)
Review -
What is a
Grown Wounded Child? (Lesson 1).
Are you raising any?
Review - A memo
from your child. The world thru his or her eyes...
Review - Two brief research summaries
about maternal bonding
6-1)
A self-assessment quiz
on effective parenting. How much do you know?
6-2)
What's
an effective parent?
(two pages). Are you one?
6-3)
Checklist:
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are we ready to conceive or adopt a child?
6-4) Summary - minor kids'
normal developmental needs.
Can you describe them?
6-5)
Summary - Abraham Maslow's
hierarchy
of human needs
6-6)
Checklist: - Basic
long-term
parenting goals.
Can you define yours?
6-7)
Checklist:
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Personality traits of effective parents.
How many do you have?
6-8) Worksheet
- our current parenting values
- how high do the kids rank?
Review -
premises about analyzing and
solving relationship problems
(Lesson 2)
Review
- A
sample personal Bill of Rights.
One key to effective adult-child relations.
Review -
Strategies for effective communication with minor kids
(including teens)
Review - Basics about family
roles and rules (Lesson 4)
6-9)
Effective child-discipline guidelines.
6-10)
Worksheet:-
Discovering our child-discipline values
6-11)
Ideas on
parenting teens
effectively
Resource: a site devoted to
parenting
teens effectively.
6-12)
An attitude
inventory for parents. Do you know if your attitudes are
"healthy"?
6-13)
Perspective on negotiating effective
parenting agreements - (2 pages)
Review -
a
research summary that
validates this project (and site), and may describe your child(ren).
Review -
a research summary suggesting
many U.S. parents lack
basic "baby knowledge."
Review -
behavioral traits of a
psychologically-wounded child. Do they match anyone you know?
Review -
Options for
nurturing a psychologically-wounded
child (Lesson 4)
6-14) Help your kids convert
shame into self-love and
respect, and manage their guilts
effectively - (two pages)
Recap