The Web address of this article is http://sfhelp.org/flyer.htm
I have been obsessively interested in people and relationships
as long as I can remember. This led me to become a professional
family-systems therapist in 1981. Since then, I have spent over 18,000 hours
working with over 1,000 average adults and some of their kids, trying to
assist them with a wide range of personal and family problems. I also have
learned much from the writings of well over 40 other experienced clinicians,
who share my interest in understanding and improving "the human condition."
Five decades of study, meditation, observation, and discussion have led me
to form the ideas offered in this non-profit Web site. I now believe that
most personal, family, and social problems are caused by a lethal [wounds +
unawareness]
that is silently spreading
and weakening our society. I have never found another person who proposes
this unverified idea. Most people whom I explain it to say "this makes
sense."
I want to alert people to this cycle
and motivate them to
- i.e. protect future generations from inheriting it, as most adults
have done for generations. My attempt to alert people has evolved into an
eight-lesson online self-study
here. Before this course evolved, I tried to capture the essence of my
learnings in the series of unique books below.
There
are shelves of books on self-improvement, relationships, parenting, and
families. The books below are unique because they:
-
propose that most personal and social
problems are caused by a "false self"
developed from a low-nurturance childhood (Lesson 1); plus...
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widespread unawareness of...
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effective-communication basics and
skills (Lesson 2), and...
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healthy grieving basics (Lesson 3);
and...
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effective relationship + parenting +
family basics (Lessons 4 thru 6); plus
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social unawareness of these factors and
tolerance for them.
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Re/marrying adults are further hindered by
(a) ignorance of stepfamily facts, realities, stressors (Lesson 7), and
(b) little informed help available locally and in the media. One result
is epidemic U.S. re/divorce trauma.
To
glimpse how unaware you are,
take these
and see what you learn.
These books
will help readers understand these combined factors, what they mean,
and how to reduce them. The first two guidebooks are for
anyone - specially adults from
low-nurturance childhoods (Grown Wounded Children,
or GWCs). The other books pertain to typical stepfamilies. Most of their
con-tent applies to all families.
All six titles are available
from the publisher (Xlibris.com),
barnesandnoble.com,
Amazon.com, and other online book sellers.
