Dig-down Relationship Skill

Most people cause and endure relationship stress by focusing on surface needs, and avoiding responsibility for filling their pri-mary needs. This is specially likely for people whose person-ality is ruled by a false self. Inner focus and true-Self leader-ship allows "digging down" through four levels of awareness to identify primary needs and who they "belong" to:

1)  Denials - I have no false-self wounds
 and no problem (unmet needs) now.

2)  Blame - I have no wounds - and I do have a
(surface, secondary) problem which you must fix.

3)  Semi-aware - I have no false-self wounds, and I am half
 responsible for my (surface) problem. You must fix the other half.

4) Aware - I am wounded and I am fully responsible
for identifying and filling my primary needs.

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